What am I doing with my life? Where are my passions? How can I make a difference?
One day, I want to look back at my life and know that it counted. That I did something that mattered. Something besides loving my husband, raising my child(ren), respecting my parents, caring about my friends and volunteering for a few good causes.
But what is that “something that matters”? And how and where do I start?
Ha, there it was! The first obstacle. I am contemplating and pondering way too much. My friend Lindsey once said:
Analysis leads to paralysis.
We often tend to worry about the if’s and but’s so much that we are already scared before we even got off our couch.
First, it obviously helps to have a dream or a crazy-heaps-of-faith-required desire to change the world. Grab a piece of paper and start right there:
- What would you want to do with your life if you didn’t have to worry about resources, time and energy? Write down whatever comes to mind.
Here are the first thoughts that came to my mind:
- A family for every child: no more orphans or children without families
- Education for all: excellent, affordable education for everyone
- No more heartbreak: Reconcile every broken relationship
I barely have the capacity to make dinner for my family of three at the end of a day, we have to ask others for help as we are raising funds for our adoption, and I can’t even reconcile my own relationships.
Today, during our moms small group meeting, I was reminded that it’s better to do something than to do nothing at all. Every person of influence had to start small. We read about those role models today or wear t-shirts with their inspiring quotes because they once took the first step.
Today, I was also told about a book called “Refuse To Do Nothing“. It’s about the brutal worlds of human trafficking and modern-day slavery. But even more so, it is a call-to-action and answers the question: But what can I do?
The authors? Two women. With kids. Full-time moms who juggle busy schedules and manage their homes. Moms who kept wondering how they could make a difference for those who are suffering while folding laundry, cheering on their kids from the sidelines of a soccer field and being stuck in line picking up their kids from school.
I guess my first step should be to read said book.
As my friends and I continue to talk about how we as stay-at-home moms can lead a life with purpose, I kept asking myself how and where will I actually be able to make a difference. Then, we followed this simple exercise:
- Think about your dreams. What desires did God put on your heart? If you don’t believe in God: Ask yourself which topics stir you up, get your blood boiling, make you angry/sad/contemplative? What do you fight for, believe in?
- Think about what you can do in the next…
- 10 minutes
- 10 days
- 10 months
- Find your partners in crime. Some of my best friends are those who hold me accountable without judgement. Best friends don’t laugh about your dreams or think you’ve lost your mind. They pray with you, encourage and motivate, share their own dreams and hopefully even walk with you. Stick to those people in your life and ask them to help you stay on task.
Now, off to…doing something.
What is your crazy dream? How did you get started? Is there something that is holding you back?